Is there are war between the sexes in our society?
Many in our
world believe that there is a war between men and women. Many look to a glass
ceiling or the gap between pay for jobs traditionally held by women v. jobs
traditionally held by men to support this supposition. There has even been a
resurgence of discussion regarding whether women who do not work outside the
home are truly working, although this has been motivated partially by politics.
Most are
failing to realize that the so-called war between the sexes is not really about
men v. women or the value of male jobs v. female jobs, or even male workers v.
female workers. Those are just the outer world reflections of what is going on
within each of us. It is really about the struggle we all have to balance the
male and female aspects within ourselves.
All of Creation
is meant to be in balance between the male attributes and the female
attributes. All of Creation requires both male and female attributes to be
healthy, whole and to create. Even if you look at the act of conception and
birth of human life, both the man and the woman each add to that co-creation in
masculine and feminine ways.
One might
look at the man’s contribution, the sperm, as being wholly masculine and the
woman carrying the child as wholly female, but look closer. Before the man can
contribute the sperm to the act of creation through ejaculation, he must first
create, hold and nurture the sperm in his testicles. Holding and nurturing is a
feminine act. The act of ejaculating is a masculine act. The man is both
nurture oriented and action oriented.
Now look at
the woman’s contribution. The woman receives the sperm and combines it with the
egg in fertilization. She holds and nurtures the baby for nine months. Then, in
a very masculine and action oriented way, she births the baby in what many
consider the most womanly action she can take. The sequence of giving birth is
100% action packed and there are millions of home videos that will attest to
this.
It is time
to recognize that we all have masculine and feminine aspects within ourselves
and it is definitely time to bring them back into balance.
In western
societies, both men and women have been out of equilibrium with respect to
their feminine and masculine attributes for millennium. Most of us have been
swinging too far to the masculine side and are constantly in the “doing” mode
v. the “being” mode. In our society, we believe that “doing” and “accomplishing”
are more important than “being” and “receiving”. That masculine attributes are
more valuable than feminine attributes. That isn’t so. They are equally
valuable and necessary.
When I was
in Corporate America (and Corporate Europe, for that matter) I was a project
manager. I don’t believe anyone, me included, would have called for a project
to have the masculine and feminine aspects in balance. That would not have been
the terms we used. What we would have expected was for a project to be both
efficient and effective. Those words are different labels for feminine and
masculine.
Efficiency
is the corporate word to describe Divine Feminine Energy. The Divine Feminine
Energy informs the vision, informs the end state, and informs the level of the
plan for which one is striving. Effectiveness is the word to describe Divine
Masculine Energy. Divine Masculine Energy informs the action steps and whether
they are taken and finished in a timely manner.
If you have
too much feminine energy without the balance of masculine energy, you have a
wonderful plan, a beautiful vision, but you get nothing done. If you have too
much masculine energy without the balance of feminine energy, you are unguided
munitions. We have all heard the old saying, “I am lost, but I am making good
time.” This is too much masculine action without the balance of the feminine
vision.
We need to
realize that to come back into balance, to be able to create all that our souls’
desire for us and to remember who we truly are, we need both an efficient plan
and an effect execution of that plan. We need to balance the Divine Feminine
Energy and the Divine Masculine Energy to remember who we truly are.